Staying happy seems difficult now a days. It is the lack of peace of mind that deprives us of happiness. To some, seeing the prevailing circumstances of the world — chaos, terrorism, poverty — gets us upset. To some, nothing bothers them as long as their needs and desires are fulfilled.
I have collected these pearls of wisdom to keep me going through the ups and downs of life:
- No one can bring you peace but yourself — You would have definitely heard of this adage before.
- Expect less – With one thing said to you, don’t imply the next thing until it is said. Later you realize you over-expected the person and you blame him for hurting you.
- Tolerance is the highest degree of your strength and desire to take revenge is the first sign of your weakness — The more you get annoyed quickly, the more you make your foes delight. The best revenge from people who have hurt you is to just stay calm and happy.
- Pray: god, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference – we sometimes try to take over control of our lives so much we forget there are things we can’t take control of.
- Differentiate between your needs and your concern for others – In an effort to make others happy, we lose self-respect. One of the key to failures is trying to make others happy
- Reciprocate what you want for yourself – Don’t judge if you don’t want to be judged, pay reverence if you want to be revered, Love if you want to be loved.
- Make peace with your past – While you spoil your present crying over your past, others enjoy their present busy making their future better. Time and tide wait for no one. No one and nothing gets halt if you have lost something or someone. Take all the time you need to get over it and move on.
- Ye waqt bhi guzar jaega – A great belief for staying realistic that is complete in itself. “This time will also get over soon”. Nothing is permanent, nothing is immortal.
All the above tips converge to this point:
- Adapt the middle path – in every walk of life. Be it talking, eating, your career, being friendly, being angry, shopping, helping, and sympathizing, in every tiny and small matter of life you have got to choose between the two extremes. This will give you peace of mind and the surety and faith in yourself that what you are doing is right.
Tolerate to an extent though. In some relations, you have to show people the limit of your tolerance else they keep piling you up with stuff you are not responsible for (that’s because they are selfish). Don’t let people exploit you.